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Why a Therapist Might Be Right For You

How Can a Therapist Help?

 

"There is always a way through. It might be hidden, or protected by dragons... but it is there."

Reinier deSmit, Artist      

Sometimes you can figure out solutions to your own problems. Yet, at some points in your life you may find yourself stuck, and seemingly trapped in a situation that you realize you can't sort out for yourself.

In a personal therapy session, you can benefit from the therapist’s professional viewpoint, their caring and sensitive insight, and the special skills they have developed over their years of continued training and therapeutic experience. 

Whether or not the concern is related to family or couple relationship issues, a professional therapist can help you see your challenges from a new perspective and compassionately support your growth and healing.

Working with you, the therapist will address a wide variety of personal issues may have arisen from living within the context of your family history, beliefs, life skills, and ways of relating to others you learned from your family and from your past life experiences. Sometimes we have trouble coping with these systems in which we live.  Schools, religious groups, communities and culture also are systems that influence behaviour. 

Therapists often work in cooperation with other professionals in the community such as doctors, psychologists, teachers, welfare workers, clergy and probation officers. Improving your life outlook can take, at times, a few different roads.

While therapists do individual work they regularly involve other members of the family in treatment.   They often include parents, children, siblings and grandparents. Marriage and family councelling is basicaly group therapy for your loved ones.

The "Right" Therapist

 

"You need to accept that life is challenging and your frustrated efforts are a valuable guide to identifying what you can't change."

Michael Bennett, Author

Successful therapy begins with, firstly, deciding one needs help. The next most important step is finding the right therapist for you.

During your initial consultation it is important to establish whether you are comfortable with a particular therapist's approach to therapy, their level of training and experience. You don't have to like your therapist, but you need to respect them.

You have a right to ask any questions and get answers that will help you develop a strong, professional theraputic relationship with your practitioner.

The Right Therapist ...

  • listens well and respects your feelings
  • connects well with you and your sense that they
    are genuine

  • can show you a relevant diploma or license to practice

  • has completed training which includes theoretical perspectives and supervised practice

  • is willing to provide you with reading materials to better understand their approach

When Should You Consult a Therapist?

 

At times, in life, we can get caught up in challenges that we just don't know what to do about. These "bad" feelings and behaviors arise as individuals, couples, and families experience normal developmental stages, face special needs and problems, or confront unexpected crisis.

Some signs to look for are:

  • Ongoing feelings of marital and family dissatisfaction

  • Feelings of loneliness, isolation, moodiness, depression

  • Problems with a child’s behaviour, school adjustments,
    or performance

  • Emotional distress when talking about one’s life circumstances

  • Sexual abuse, via spouses and/or families

  • Family violence or intense anger and hostility

  • Conflict with aged or disabled family members

  • Constant verbally abusive communications

  • Unexpected physical injuries to spouse or children

  • Burn-out related to workaholic behaviour

  • Care-giver burn-out

  • Drastic weight fluctuations and/or irregular eating patterns

  • Repeated employment difficulties, frequent job changes, difficulty with co-workers

  • Physical symptoms that may have an emotional component

  • Compulsive behaviours with alcohol, drugs or gambling

  • Post traumatic stress syndrome

  • Motor vehicle accident recovery